You’ve Done The Work. But You Still Feel Stuck.
Therapy for going deeper when insight isn't enough.
Trauma-informed, LGBTQ+-affirming, and neurodivergent-affirming therapy in Seattle, Washington.
You’ve worked so hard. So why do you still feel stuck?
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Maybe you've been in therapy before.
But you keep finding yourself in relationships that look like the ones you said you’d never be in again.
You still feel shame or embarrassment when things that seem to come easily to everyone else feel hard for you
Rest, connection, and feeling comfortable in your own skin still feel like foreign concepts.
It’s hard to break away from what you know. Always being on, anticipating peoples’ needs, being careful not to be “too much,” constantly reading the room, and saying and doing what you should do…these “skills” all got you to a place in your life that looks pretty good on paper.
But keeping everything together can be exhausting. And you may not even realize how much of yourself you’ve learned to hide or set aside.
Over time, it can become difficult to know what you actually want, need, or feel underneath all that shape-shifting.
What if the problem was never that you weren't trying hard enough?
What if it’s that you've been trying to fit yourself into a life that doesn’t quite fit you?
What if you stopped trying so hard to change yourself?
You might find that you…
Learn to trust your own needs and don’t feel guilty for meeting them before everyone else’s
Feel more comfortable and connected in your relationships
Spend less time questioning if you behaved “correctly”
Make choices that support who you are, not who you think you're supposed to be
Have more energy to explore, create and do the things that excite you
Start building a life that feels as good as it looks
A different kind of therapy.
Hello! I’m Julia, a licensed mental health counselor in Seattle, Washington.
Many of my clients come to me after years of being given tools, guidelines, and coping skills designed to change or get rid of “negative” thoughts and behaviors.
Those tools have a place. But when we focus too quickly on what needs to change, we can end up changing things that don’t need changing.
If you’ve spent your life adapting, performing, anticipating, and hiding parts of yourself to fit in and feel safe, therapy can’t become another place where you’re asked to be more “normal.”
We’re not here to get rid of the parts of you that don’t fit neatly into society’s or someone else’s expectations. We’re here to understand them.
That means we’ll make room for the parts of yourself you’ve learned to hide, override and explain away. The feelings that are “too much,” the behaviors that may not make sense to everyone, and the needs and wants you’ve learned to ignore.
I want to help you be brave enough to imagine what your life could look and feel like if you stopped working so hard against yourself.
